when friendships collapse

[fasterfaster]

Hmm... this is awful to hear, but if I may, can I offer a perspective from the other side?

I've known someone fora whileand very soon did get tired of them. It was just a case of, the more I found out, the less I liked.I've nothing against them, but I have too many differences and find objections with most a lot of their opinions and attitudes. This works fine with some other people, but this is so much the case that I just bite my tongue fartoo often and it's frustrating. I don't want to upset this person so I don't confront what they say (as their views are harming nobody else, and I'm not the type just to speak my mind for no benefitial reason).
But anyway, we're around eachother every single day and we have the same shared friends. If there were to be a rift between us, the consequences would be disasterous. We are not in positions to go seperate ways then and will still be around eachother.

But they definitely have noticed a change in my behaviour towards them. I'm never mean to them as I wouldn't do that, but you could say I'm less enthusiastic for obvious reasons. I put on a brave face most of the time as if everything's rosy.

I do not feel able to say this to their face. I think it'd harm them as much as it'd harm me, and things are better for now like this. In time, when we have our own space,obviously they'll find out and the reality will come out.
I would love to be able to say it though, but cannot and thought I'd share this side of things.

That guy does sound like an ass though. I'd never do a deliberate brush off like that. If you don't get on with someone, there's no need to be mean. I think whatever he thinks of you, you must ask yourself if he's really worth it if he does things like this?

[ali*]

[img]smileys/smiley32.gif[/img]you typed everything i wanted to say. thank you.


people drift and people change, there's nothing wrong with it. it can be sad though

[#Ian#]

Originally Posted by Louise

WHAT? How is that possible?

We import them from all over the worlkd and then send them back out.

[maccas81]

are you on the market thenlouise??? [img]smileys/smiley27.gif[/img]

[Louise]

Originally Posted by #Ian#

We import them from all over the worlkd and then send them back out.

mental lentil chicken oriental!

and yes I suppose I am on the market. [img]smileys/smiley9.gif[/img]

[maccas81]

oooh matron! well that makes two of us! sooooo......*inhales deep breath* what are you doing tonight??

[Louise]

em...*squirms unconfortably*...going to the pub. [img]smileys/smiley9.gif[/img]

[maccas81]

*takes hint*....ok...well.....goodbye!........*runs away in floods of tears*

[Louise]

No! I wasnt hinting! dont go!

[#Ian#]

Too late Louise, you've blown it now

[marina]

i think a lot of prople change as they get older, for example ive been best friends with my friends for the last 9 years, wer're all very different people, with different interests, but still manage to remain best friends, maybe we're just a wee bit odd[img]smileys/smiley36.gif[/img]


ok continue eskimos....shaun i believe you were asking our Louise out for a drink?

[Louise]

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damn me and my inability to deal with the opposite sex.

[maccas81]

ok louise would you like to go for a drink with me tonight?

[Magnus]

Hey! She's mine alright!

[ali*]

ooooh louise, dilemna.....which one? oooooh , i know, if we had one more guy fighting for u we could do blind date...i know emmetts supposed to be the cilla of the igloo..but he's not here....

[Louise]

I know, I suppose I have to take geography into account you know?

[Magnus]

I might do something about that geography. What about you Shaun? Are you willing to go all the way? [img]smileys/smiley2.gif[/img]

[ali*]

all the way?! gosh magnus..u haven't even had your first date yet...cheeky.


louise u have to interview them- we're not letting you date just anyone you know.

[Louise]

em...thanks. Ok, question one: do you like to watch sports?

[Magnus]

Originally Posted by Louise

do you like to watch sports?

I don't have a television and I hate sports!
but anything for you darling.

[Louise]

yeah, i think the tv thing could be a bone of contention. I love tv.

[maccas81]

im off to watch munster in the rugby! and magnus....go all the way?? a gentleman never tells!!

[Louise]

excellent, thats what I like to hear! Im gonna hit the road too, the pub is calling me. Perhaps we'll continue this debate at another time on another day in another place... [img]smileys/smiley1.gif[/img] Bye!

[Magnus]

"go all the way" had nothing to do with anything but geography...

[maccas81]

juust kidding magnus! well louise i might see you there!

[Magnus]

You shouldn't be making jokes about dead serious gentleman business!

[Magnus]

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[Miss Pink]

Originally Posted by maccas81

and pinky....is that marraige offer still on?? [img]smileys/smiley27.gif[/img]

Well, maybe....[img]smileys/smiley9.gif[/img]... do u still want it to be?!

[maccas81]

well......go on then!!

[Patricia]

Originally Posted by Miss Pink

Well, maybe....[img]smileys/smiley9.gif[/img]... do u still want it to be?!

"If anyone has anythg to say, say it now or shut up forever..."


ME!!! SHE CAN'T MARRY HIM SHE'S ALREADY ENGAGED! PEOPLE THOUGHT HER FIANCEE WAS DEAD BUT SHE'S NOT!


On the other hand... These 3 years of wandering have made me a different woman Honey, and I can see clearly he's the one who'll make you happy... [img]smileys/smiley19.gif[/img]I'll just let you go *sigh* But promise me you'll try your best to be happy, you deserve it Hun.