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11-11-2004, 03:35 PM | #1 |
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if it hurts the feelings of others but not as much as telling the truth would?
I'm in a corner right now and the urge to come out swinging doesn't seem to be the right one.
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11-11-2004, 03:47 PM | #2 |
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i always feel more hurt if i find out i've been lied to than anything else. go with the truth. one lye often feeds more, and you risk ending up not remembering what's true or false, what lies have been told to whom, etc... it's just not worth it. inflicting pain is a horrible feeling, but it's temporary, and if you lie you risk losing your selfrespect and other people's respect - i'd say it's just not worth it. hold on to your integrity, it's all you have in the end.
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11-11-2004, 03:49 PM | #3 |
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No it is not!!! (I am lying [img]smileys/smiley17.gif[/img]) Only you can judge big man, as you know the person and the particular lie... If it's about their bum being big, go for it, if it's that their behaviour is annoying you and you want to unload, maybe chill out first and then approach it differently. The truth is always easiest mate, as you don't have to maintain it... If you always tell the truth you can't mess up down the line... Also depends if you want to be known as an honest person, or someone who is conscious of other's feelings, but then you can be honest and sensitive.
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11-11-2004, 04:15 PM | #4 |
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i would usually recommend the truth, especially in the long term - no matter how things work out in the beginning, the truth will eventually come out and it's bound to irk off some people. this also opens up the potential to hurt the same people twice - once with the lie and once with the eventual truth. on the other hand, sometimes it's best to follow your instincts. if you don't feel like now is a good time to come out swinging, then you probably know better than anyone else.there is a fine line to walk in situations like this, but as juzzza pointed out, only you can safely gauge where that line is and when/if to cross it. good luck.
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11-12-2004, 07:14 AM | #5 |
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tell the truth, just don't be blunt! By lying, or not being completely honest you're not solving anything.
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11-12-2004, 07:32 AM | #6 |
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Be truthful, There's ways to be truthful without being too hurtful..... Hmmmm, unless you've broken a vow to some one, in which case it would have been better to be truthful before hand... |
11-12-2004, 10:58 AM | #7 |
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One of the worse feeling in the world is the moment I realise someone has been lying to me. Lies very often hurt more than the truth. Come on be brave, tell her the truth!
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11-12-2004, 12:59 PM | #8 |
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the truth will out - but sometimes lying is done through necessity not choice.
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11-12-2004, 01:16 PM | #9 |
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what even if someone was throwing you a surprise party and they had to lie about it so it wouldnt ruin the surprise - you wouldnt trust them - I dont think lying is that black and white. I do think that lying to the police is ok
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11-12-2004, 01:26 PM | #10 |
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[img]smileys/smiley36.gif[/img]I'm sure youre not really - ok it was a bad example but you know what I mean
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11-12-2004, 01:42 PM | #11 |
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what about lying to the police?[img]smileys/smiley36.gif[/img] are carrying any contraband? - I assure you officer I'm not
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11-12-2004, 01:52 PM | #12 |
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i never talk to them so I've not had the opportunity - no actually I gave a witness statement for them once and was filmed by the bbc outside my old flat - I didnt lie to them then.
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11-12-2004, 01:54 PM | #13 |
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I was married to one for over 20 years .....I've been brainwashed
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uh - oh - you said were?
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11-12-2004, 03:41 PM | #15 | |
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11-12-2004, 03:52 PM | #16 |
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What ya gonna do in the end Ian??
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11-12-2004, 04:37 PM | #17 |
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Don't know
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11-12-2004, 04:39 PM | #18 |
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i dunno the specifics of the issue here, but lying usually isnt a good thing even if done to protect someone because theyre not going to be very happy if they ever found out the truth, dont you think? its not always easy to be honest though.
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11-12-2004, 04:43 PM | #19 |
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Tell the truth even if it hurts. In the end you'll feel better for being honest and truthfulland not add to the hurt w/ lies.
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11-12-2004, 10:11 PM | #22 |
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What about lying to your kids that santa claus is real, is that wrong?[img]smileys/smiley36.gif[/img]
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11-13-2004, 02:48 PM | #23 |
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i think it depends on the situation Ianbut generally the truth is better, i HATE being lied to, and if the case is a relationship....then the truth is always better
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11-13-2004, 04:24 PM | #24 |
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Ah but there is no relationship, and I don't want there to be one, I'm thinking that I need a beard (of sorts, I'm not gay).
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11-13-2004, 04:40 PM | #25 |
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i like beards. anyway if thats the case then maybe a little white lie ain't so bad
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11-13-2004, 04:57 PM | #26 |
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No, dark glasses and a career in politics does.
A beard is a term for a woman who marries/dates a man whose interests do not lie with adult woman as cover for the mans actual proclivities.Edited by: #Ian#
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11-13-2004, 05:07 PM | #27 |
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Yeah, I guess they do then
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11-15-2004, 09:34 PM | #28 |
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Truth doesn't seem towork.
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