HELP! Damsel in distress!

[lainey]

I know I aven been here very long but you guys and dolls are so good at the whole advice I was bound 2 ask for help on somethin at sometime so here goes! Well its actually a really complicated story but in short Im CRAZY bout this guy and he says he feels the same and its been like this for over a year BUT he has a girlfriend! What should I do? I really really like him! ....................b gentle with me!![img]smileys/smiley9.gif[/img]

[Wheels]

If he's crazy about you why is he still with her?

[Patricia]

Lainey, forget abt him. I KNOW its hard, but... That's my advice. [img]smileys/smiley31.gif[/img]

[GlttrGrrl]

forget about him





I'm dead serious

[The Weatherman]

AdDVICE:


1) Ask him DIRECTLY, don't use coded speak that girls always resort too. Just say "Listen, we have this thing together, but you're with her. Sort it out". The ball's in his court.

2) Eat balanced meals everyday.

[Patricia]

[img]smileys/smiley36.gif[/img]Don't!! Eat junk food and lots of chocolate! But ultimatum seems rifht to me. Go Lainey, you're strong, you're sexy, shake your booty, you can do it!!

[lainey]

Originally Posted by Wheels

If he's crazy about you why is he still with her?

I know I was stupid for hanging around for so long wasn I? It jus gets to me cos we get on so well, he understands me like nobody else does.[img]smileys/smiley19.gif[/img]


OPatricia, iwish i could, it is really hard too damn hard!

[Wheels]

I'm not saying you're stupid for hanging on... just asking... he tells you he is crazy about you... what does he say about why he hasn't left her?

[Patricia]

Then he should understand this situation is too hard for you and he should break it with her or tell you its useless for you to wait for him.

[lainey]

[img]smileys/smiley36.gif[/img]Thanks for the advice weatherman, made me laugh!


Hey trish you,ve seen the size of this booty, you sure its a good idea to b shakin it around?![img]smileys/smiley2.gif[/img]

[Patricia]

Hell yeah!

[lainey]

Originally Posted by Wheels

I'm not saying you're stupid for hanging on... just asking... he tells you he is crazy about you... what does he say about why he hasn't left her?

See he used never say anythin like that to me but stuff ended with us a few weeks ago and it really upset me and i thought i didn mean all that much, but then he told me all this stuff the other night[img]smileys/smiley5.gif[/img]

[Wheels]

And what did he say about why he hadn't left her? Had he known you liked him before then?

[lainey]

Originally Posted by Patricia

Hell yeah!

Theres a big sailin thing in cork the week after nex were both goin 2 so guess I,ll go do some booty shakin there then!![img]smileys/smiley2.gif[/img][img]smileys/smiley1.gif[/img]





Thanks every1!! Appreciated!

[lainey]

Originally Posted by Wheels

And what did he say about why he hadn't left her? Had he known you liked him before then?

Yeah he knew, we'd been flirtin for over a year, well more then flirtin but nothin physical(if that makes sense to any1) while they were together anyway! We used never talk bout her and stupidly i guess i jus kinda excepted her as part of the furniture. And we started talkin bout her recently and he said they weren gettin on well at all but then 1 of her relatives died and it brought them much closer and that hes really confused and doesn know what to do. Which is why i dont wanna put more pressure on him, is that bein stupid?

[Patricia]

It's very nice of you Lainey. But I maintain it: stop everythg.

[The Weatherman]

Originally Posted by lainey

i guess i jus kinda excepted her as part of the furniture.

I know what you mean. You're both sitting there, drinking tea, when suddenly, you put your mug on her head, the tea spills, scalding the poor girl. Happens to me ALL the time.

[Wheels]

Yeah, give it up. If he comes back (having broken up with the other girl) then ye can see where ye go.

[lainey]

I guess your right Patricia & Wheels, thanks for the help!


Much easier said then done but Im gonna try, again!





Glad theres ppl like you around at times like these weatherman, the ones that stop the tears of sorrow and bring on the laughter! Thanks![img]smileys/smiley1.gif[/img]

[The Weatherman]

Originally Posted by lainey

Glad theres ppl like you around at times like these weatherman, the ones that stop the tears of sorrow and bring on the laughter! Thanks![img]smileys/smiley1.gif[/img]

No problem, happy to help a troubled eskimo. [img]smileys/smiley1.gif[/img]

[lainey]

Dont go all sweet on me now or I'll start cryin again! Damn hormones!

[Sionna]

Dont ya just hate those???[img]smileys/smiley2.gif[/img]Hope it sorts itself out!

[pamela]

tease him n show him what he's missing by not being with you...then he'll realise + dump the poor girl for you ..yayyy eskimo love

[indigoangel]

Originally Posted by lainey

I know I was stupid for hanging around for so long wasn I? It jus gets to me cos we get on so well, he understands me like nobody else does.[img]smileys/smiley19.gif[/img]

love makes us blind, we tend to hang round thinking someone is worth the wait, completely blind to their assholeish ways. it happens to most of us and later youll wonder why lol


you need to think about weather this guy is really worth hanging around for. i know you feel he understands you, but if this wasreally true then he'd understand that hes hurting you.


dont cry eskimo,no guy is worth your tears,however you are worth all the eskimo hugs you can get [img]smileys/smiley4.gif[/img] [img]smileys/smiley31.gif[/img]

[Varuna]

if he cannot appreciate u for who u are and cannot make up his mind then let him go.


and in the wise words of oscar wilde (well sort of , don't remember the exact wording): even if u did get together with the man , how can u be sure that he won't find someone else to flirt with and the other girl won't treat u as furniture!! maybe he treats all his girlfriends that way!


maybe he thinks its acceptable to have a girlfriend and other ppl u just flirt with but have no physical contact with.


i think it depends on where u draw the line.


take care, don't let men take advantage of ur feelings.

[lainey]

Ya Sionna hate them! Although in some countries I think you can blame them for killing some1 which could come on handy!![img]smileys/smiley36.gif[/img]


Ya Pamela that kinda worked already which was good but he didn dump her tho jus had 2 keep talkin 2 me, poop!


Thanks indigo, eskimo hugs, yay!


Ur right Varuna, I wudn want any1 thinkin I was an armchair or a nice coffee table or anythin![img]smileys/smiley36.gif[/img]


Thanks guys yer so good 2 me![img]smileys/smiley1.gif[/img]

[marloes]

Originally Posted by indigoangel

love makes us blind, we tend to hang round thinking someone is worth the wait, completely blind to their assholeish ways.* it happens to most of us and later youll wonder why lol**


you need to think about weather this guy is really worth hanging around for.* i know you feel he understands you, but if this was*really true then he'd understand that hes hurting you.*

This is sooooo true!!! A little distance can help put things back in perspective. I had to learn the hard way as well [img]smileys/smiley19.gif[/img] And if you're not ready to that yet cause you value what you 2 have together 2 much, do what The weatherman suggested: ask him outright, don't let him give you easy answers, but be prepared for what you might hear, cause you might not like it. [img]smileys/smiley31.gif[/img] Edited by: marloes

[mestonf]

yeah asking him outright could well work....but if not i know its hard but you might just have to move on....but it must be kinda frustrating

[Enoch]

Abit of anti-male sentiment in this thread. That realllllly grips my sh*t [img]smileys/smiley13.gif[/img]

[#Ian#]

You're right Enoch, thats 2 in a few days. I wonder if we would get away with an "all woman are bitches" thread?